Parenting is hard. You don’t want to be too harsh on your kids, but you also can’t let them get away with anything either. So where is the line? The truth is that it’s always moving. As a parent you’re always getting thrown curve balls. Just when you think you have everything figured out, here comes a curve ball aimed at your head.
As most people with boys know, the classroom is not always an ideal environment for them. They can be rough and active. It’s not always easy for them to be in a place where they are limited physically.
So, when my youngest started school, it took him a while to adjust. Ok, it took him like two years. So… a while.
In any case, most of the issues he had when he was younger involved not being able to sit still and chatting too much with his best Ninja Kid friend, Violet. This got him in all sorts of trouble. He got referred to the principal’s office fairly often.
Last year, he didn’t get a referral the entire schoolyear. We celebrated with a Nintendo Switch. I (mistakenly) thought we were past the worst of it.
First week of school, 3rd grade, he gets a referral. I’m thinking too much talking, not coming in from the playground fast enough, messing around in class…nope. He bit a kid. In 3rd grade.
Even worse, the victim was his desk partner, who is a girl. So, my boy bit a girl. He claims she put trash on his desk and then blamed him for making the mess, which I can totally believe because there is nothing he hates more than being framed for something he didn’t do.
But his response was to bite her.
Fast forward to conferences. My first question has to be, “Has he bitten anyone else lately?”
That is not the question you want to lead with at your child’s conference. To his credit, he has been fine since. He lost a lot of privileges for a couple weeks, but he seems to have learned his lesson.
So, everything is fine now, I’m sure. I’m just going to sit here and wait for that parenting fastball I know is coming so I can hit it out of the park…
Wait, that doesn’t look like a fastball…
We enjoy many things about the Ninja Dad life, but one thing we don’t like is repeating ourselves. Constantly. Especially when it has to do with manners, behavior, and general commonsense decorum.
So, rather than nag ourselves hoarse, we developed a genius reminder system to keep our kids in line. They’re called manners cards, and we swear, sometimes they actually work. Check them out here.